Day 4 - Preventative Shirking Measures

I wear my heart in my socks. In my life there has been the odd occasion where I’ve accidentally been too nice to someone and created an unwelcome one-way bond. As a generally avoidant person, there typically then comes an awkward, drawn-out period of having to employ a long-term passive tactic of mild disinterest. I’m too conflict-averse to deliver an immediate shirk so I must employ preventative shirking measures.

For anyone who is avoidant, I would heavily advocate being aloof. Taciturn. Reticent. Cold. Don’t go too far and become a brooding and mysterious enigma - this may have the opposite to the desired effect.

If someone starts to become too familiar within the first couple of months of knowing them, maybe smile less. Cut conversations short. Put your earphones in. It’s easier being slightly rude early doors than it is forming too close a relationship and then realising you want out. You will always be the bad guy in that scenario, despite it usually being their fault for being too confident and overly-familiar – but it is unlikely they will accept this responsibility.

Only a short one today. I don’t want to become overly-familiar.